In relationship there are two different things, joy and pleasure. All of them are dependent upon your integral part of your real life. How to keep limited to someone is a core reason behind the myth.
What is our physical energy?
There is energy in our body that produces every time and ready to transfer from one person to another. That physical energy gets a transfer from one person to another when we touch. There is an phenomenon of exchange of energy. Touching someone physically for the first time, only that point of time you will feel that energy. The more you do, the less you survive, or joy of it gets reduced. That energy remembers you for your lifetime.
However, If you are giving a session at a seminar and you are a famous personality. Thus because of your fans, you shake hands and give hugs to each and every person in the audience. You are releasing positive energy that took years to store in your body. You will quickly exhaust your energy. In short, you are giving access to an integral part of your body. To avoid these release of energy. Keep minimal access to your body from the foreign touch.
Another Example of Difference between Joy and Pleasure in Relationship
The same way, loving someone and having a physical relationship with someone who is a choice of one of a person. Therefore, one wishes to keep physical relation with many others, later that person will have pleasured every time he has sex, but there will be no joy. Not only love, but every other thing in this universe is enjoyable when you are not a frequent user of someone or something.
Long-distance relationship
Suppose, If I am in a long-distance relationship, work in a metro city and my partner is in hometown. Once in three months, I visit her. There is a different joy that I can’t find in every day. Her strong touch will make me an extraordinary lover. This is not only in the relationship, but I can apply everywhere to everything in this holy universe. As well as, if I visit the Taj Mahal for the first time in my life, I touched those rocks, that memory soon would be attached to my body and will be forever. The joy is real.
What if I work there permanently? I won’t feel any special and strong about it. Thus, you will be no more to keep yourself integral to that place. That means you have lost the integrity of the Taj Mahal. Hence, if you lost your integrity to the sex, you will lose the real joy, the pleasure will be there for sure. Shaking hands, hugging someone, that means you have no integrity to yourself. You are a page of an open book that was read by many people. The importance and the joy of reading has gone.
Having sex with others defines the same way in today’s literary world. People start shaking hands, hugging them, some other way they are losing their integral part (joy of life). One must confine their energy within their self.
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Life of a human cycle
The life of any human is defined, the human life cycle completes when the moon does his 1008 cycles. It is divided into three quarters. In the first quarter, exchange of the energy happens from mother to child. After that, child to confine it and make it integrated. If someone wants to nurture it for the living. Life becomes hell when there is no joy in life. If any individual did not get that touch from her mother, there is no chance after passing of the first quarter. Why many ancient Indian cultures still are there? Many other spiritual gurus are there who gives you NO HUGS and HANDSHAKE. This is the reason why they are the most integrated person.
Mencius’s mother moved three times, What does it mean? The idiom was well famous and simply says that to grow a kid in an environment of wise thoughts (keep integrity). However, mother of Mencius moved or changed three times while traditional education to her son and keep away and saved from bad thoughts. The Chinese culture considered one of the wast and oldest of the world out of the four measure civilizations, Babylon, India and Egypt.