1 Secret Osho Explained: “Relationship” is not “love”

Rajneesh osho

An Indian philosopher and the founder of the Rajneesh movement, Osho (11 December 1931–19 January 1990) was a spiritual guru. He says that “the more loving you are, the less is the possibility of any relationship.

He travelled extensively in India as well as in many other countries in the late 80s and is well known as a social critic and public speaker. Even Gandhi could not escape these critical thoughts. The great philosopher who always had a good deal of wisdom. Some of them were to listen to but not to implement in real life. One of Osho's followers was the seasoned actor Vinod Khanna.

Indian philosopher and the founder of Rajneesh movement, Osho (11 Dec 1931–19 Jan 1990) was a spiritual guru | i'mBiking credit to Wikipedia

Journey of Osho (Rajneesh Movement)

Through his spiritual teachings, he talked more about religious traditions, mystical powers, and philosophies around the world. However, his critical views on religions brought flutter in political movements and during his visits to different countries. His visit or entry was rejected by almost 21 countries. His troublesome period was between 1981 and 1985, during which he was in Rajneeshpuram. It was an international community in Wasco County, Oregon, in the United States. A very short-lived city existed between 1981–1988, the community had built of all Rajneesh followers. He was jailed and was asked to leave the country.

Furthermore, his journey ended in 1974 when he decided to live and continue teaching in the Pune ashram. Osho's Hindi speeches attracted the attention of many Indians and converted them to Rajneeshees. He became famous for his free attitude toward human sexuality when he published “Sambhog Se Samadhi Ki Or” संभोग से समाधि की ओर, a Hindi edition that talks all about relationships and love.

Hindi quote from the book “Sambhog Se Samadhi Ki Or”

इसलिए मैं कहता हूं: प्रेम है सीढ़ी और परमात्मा है उस यात्रा की अंतिम मंजिल

Osho quotes

Best Quotes

If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up, it dies, and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.

Osho

Experience life in all possible ways good-bad, bitter-sweet, dark-light, summer-winter. Experience all the dualities. Don't be afraid of experience because the more experience you have, the more mature you become.

Osho

Life begins where fear ends.

Osho

Each person comes into this world with a specific destiny. He has something to fulfil, some message has to be delivered, some work has to be completed. You are not here accidentally--you are here meaningfully. There is a purpose behind you. The whole intends to do something through you.

Osho

The moment love becomes a relationship, it becomes a bondage. Because there are expectations and there are demands, there are frustration and an effort from both the sides to dominate. It becomes struggles for power.

Views of Rajneesh (Osho) on Relationship

Love is not starting or creating a relationship, nor surrendering to each other. Someone asked a question about whether surrender is purely political. However, not a question of love. Therefore, "a relationship is not love at all." The human relationship is a kind of bound to bondage. On the other hand, surrendering to love means getting involved in the happiness of others, rejoicing in the being of the person you love, being in tune with others, and dancing in rhythm. Furthermore, he also said that kinship is certain death and a closed thing. However, love is pure and based on a give-and-take relationship. The family relationship is always a substitute, structured and accompanied by unloving people.

The Relationship Sutra

The relationship never occurred before the egos came in front and the husband and wife hid behind. The relationship sutra of Osho says that there are four people living on the sleeping bed. When a husband and wife hide behind their egos, those two egos make love. However, real contact does not happen between them. Thus, the relationship exists between two equal people. Therefore, in Indian culture, women are always exploited and vice versa. If in every couple (relationship) there is fear, love cannot enter into fear. Therefore, they cannot survive together. Continue reading for details.

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Temperature in Mahabaleshwar keeps me more functional

Temper has a short time, but If you cannot win over that, It could ruin your life. Keeping yourself as cool as temperature in Mahabaleshwar help you keep more functional.

That day was unfortunate, it was started in silence, I woke up in the early coldest morning of the week. I went to office by bicycle on that foggy day. If something strange happens, it follows the entire day like that. I go to the office by bicycle only, except when I have a fast, I prefer a motorbike for that day. Therefore, I could call that day badly sad. My wife did not wake up from the bed as there was a small fight over the last night. I was damn sure about her next morning routine change.

Is that an ugly fact? Is it happening to you as well? Generally, couples sleep apart on the bed facing their back to each others. However, we try a lot to get into sleep but always fail, and it is a problem of both. Many times we never fall asleep easily for almost one to two hours. Our brain keeps running behind the random what was right and wrong between us. It keeps running wild thoughts in our head on the bed. I call it late night game on the fight day. Sometimes pulling blanket from each other, one do it who regrets, thus teasing sometimes helps over the fight. Eventually, it ends into laughter. Furthermore, we meet, and a hug again brings us closer.

However, looking at last fight, there was less chance. It was too ugly like a Cold War and we both were sad, it was my wife's fault or not I was not confident. After working in the office with my silent behaviours, my close friend could easily find sad look behind my smile, how much unhappy I was. Occasionally, in the front of management, I have to keep all the worries and problems besides and focus on the allocated work. I quickly remind the temperature of mahabaleshwar and our romantic memories of the last year visit.

However, I was surprised at home, you won't believe. After my shift ends, I went home. I thought that I will work late evening and then go home. But I couldn't resist that thought, you may say that I was missing my home. I reached home as per my regular schedule. I as soon as I entered and heard my wife from the kitchen.

Furthermore, I thought She must have been cooking food, thinking my husband must be hungry. It brought a smile to my face. But after parking my bicycle in the hall, I brought my face back to a silent look.

It was for the first time, without telling her, she placed a potful of water on the induction Electric stove) for boiling. I usually get a bath at around 4-5 pm when I return home. When I ride the bicycle. So, I bath twice in a day in winter. While, she went into the washroom across the hall, however, we did not look into each other's eyes, just blindly ignored.

Further, upon experiencing this, I felt terrible again and subsequently, she left into the kitchen. She was still cooking food. I switched on TV and fan, thinking water gets boiling until the time I should watch Television. There was a quiet silence across the house. As the TV suddenly started bouncing its sound on the walls and ears, my daughter came near me and said, BABA (A famous common name used in Maharashtra for calling fathers). Looking at her face, I wore my smile back and the happy face returned, thinking what she did wrong?

I was still confused that we will talk today or not. My wife crossed me taking warmed water into the bathroom even this time without even a glance at me and emptied it into the bucket for the bath. I went in and while in the bath, my daughter came inside and started playing with me. She loves having a bath, even if it is more than five times a day. As her mother heard, she came and took her to the kitchen. At that time also we did not speak a word and not even for a single second we look into each other's eyes. I thought that I will not speak even today and will sleep same the way as we did yesterday. While bath, I was thinking that I will not eat and will go to sleep without having food. The memories had had recalled in the office of my temperature in mahabaleshwar faded away. As all know, Mahabaleshwar is well-known for its cold air.

I came back to the hall wearing my night cloths and sat at the same place I was watching TV, I quickly got surprised.

The surprise was unexpected and for the moment when I entered the house I never thought it will happen. My wife walked into the hall with a Thali (diner) in her hand. It was freshly cooked food. However, I felt so loving, specially when she had a broad smile looking into my eyes. Thali has extra food, as you can say, it was my favourite food, two curries, cumin-rice and Ghee flavoured cooked lentils.

Therefore, looking at her my smile was slowly gearing up and was responding cooperatively and thus, within no time we both turned into a laugher. As well as, she sat beside me with a surrendering look. I can say, it was the longest laugh of the day. Then she hugged me and gave me a kiss and I returned the same. The feelings that evoked in me were different. A tear of love appeared quickly on my cheek. It happens only for your loved one. It happened for the first time in life that a smile can be a witness to a big fight. Within a second, the hateful face turned into a loving one.

“It was a clear-cut example that love only add love and hate only contribute hate”

In hate, if you add some love it becomes completely Love and If you add hate in Love, then it becomes hate. So hate gives hate and love gives love, as simple as it is.

One thing I learned when someone smiles, it does not matter how sad you are, you give definitely a smile back and that's the nature's law. If my wife thought not to smile and give me food. I could have enjoyed on my own without happiness, but a smile brought the happiness on my face. Thus, that smile gave me a lesson. When anybody you found is sad or angry, then you should start with a smile. If it happens with your spouse, then this is the best thing to start.

This will help you stop fighting and spread the love more…