Anger: The product of different understanding

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Anger has different shape and size and thus manage it becomes quite difficult. I met a couple that never lasted in their bondage, found their kids of the same behaviours, his son who I never thought would turn out the same as father. When I was a kid at the age of 10, I could understand how these couples would survive till the end. They were unmatched and unresolved query of their fate. The couple’s behaviours in front of their kids was not normal. They could use abusive language, scolding the son in front of his daughter or slapping his wife in front of the entire family.

I frequently used to think that what their kids would be turned in future and their behaviours. I researched a lot and came to these points that they must have done so as when I saw them are the actual clone of their father.

The forceful ardent behaviours

Most of the time when recently got married couple found incorrect match in the next few months. However, the marriage done under a critical decision or based on attraction (one side love). You mostly find no love between them. Both becomes a prey of situation and either one of them finds unhealthy relationship to continue. Therefore, sex becomes a common and disinterested, however, a way to sacrifices for other important relations. One of the people from such relationship becomes dominant and try to rule while sex. That forceful and ardent behaviours cause, one of such child.

Tone Plays Crucial Role in Anger Management

This could also lead to anger in tone most of the time when things went wrong from the beginnings of the relationship. Occasionally, a wife does not respond to a query of her husband or vice versa. When human undergo physical relationship that should take place in the best way, at calm, happiness and with authoritative involvement of both the party. If that goes wrong and opposite, there it becomes a way of ardent behaviours to incorporate into your upcoming kids. This bad behavioural changes will impact your upcoming kids.

Anger Multiply Anger

I have seen people in my life how they react to such situations of anger brings only anger. I grew up in the village and saw such community, their kids, and the family behaviours. When the above discussed couple have grown up children, they become full trained from theirs parent reacts with each other, and thus the rest of the family quickly adapts to the changes. They start talking to parents in the same manners, with the same behaviours. Therefore, when father question back to their son or daughter on their behaviours, they actually forget and regret for life.

How does it Pass Through Genetically?

Understanding between the couple are the most important and should be in positive tone between them. When there is no understanding, and it starts from the day you got married, I am sure kids will also have the same problem dealing with their parents. Thus, one can easily get that how it affects genetically. When you go physical with your partner, the most important how you both are good in bed. How well and healthy is your relationship in terms of understanding. If both behave well, your kids will have the same characteristics and well controlled. The kind and patient.

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How does it pass through Behaviour?

It almost spread not through genetically but through mental channel and through to it becomes illness of lifetime and keeps continued in family generation to generation.

Good habits for kids: Beware of the habitual dilemma of your kids

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Good habits for kids is essential for our kids today. What kind of nerves that send sensation to the brain of a child of 12 months old. I had experienced for the first time in my life. Being a literary blogger I was not convinced that handling a baby at home is not only a difficult task but understanding them is a bigger part. When we feed the child apart from mother’s milk, they soon become familiar with types of food and taste. And such one of the things recently had happened to me when I visited a shopping mall with my wife and 12 months old baby daughter.

What is Essential for Good Habits for kids today?

Since I do not stay at home in the afternoon, I was unknown about most of the activities. And our neighbours take her to their house for a bath and lunch. They live with an elder son, and one younger son lives away in Ahmedabad. They love her so much and feed her from fruits to Daal-Rice. We never restrict my daughter taking her to their house, and now she has become a piece of their life. Whenever we go to our native place, they keep calling us and talk to my daughter through a video-call.

What Food a Kid Needs?

At the age when she was 6 months old, she was getting all the kinds of fruits in her lunch, and thus she got a taste of fruits like Apple, Kiwi, Strawberry, Grapes etc. That day when we were going shopping in the mall, she was on the trolley enjoying watching different people, smiling looking at the different faces, children, babies etc. First, we had started the clothes department, we brought curtains and a few floor mats. Then headed to supper market things, Sugar, Rice, Salt, Wheat, Soup, Oil etc. and then lastly we appeared into Vegetable and Fruits department.

Think before Incorporation of Good Habits for Kids

We had seen many children under the age of 2 years with their parents in that section and few were still buying. We passed through a bunch of Apples, and she saw it. When we were going away from the Apple stall, every step of her ahead she couldn’t take away her glance from it. When she got to know that we are going away and away only then she cried louder. It was then we got to know that she wants Apple, she was trying to jump within a second and was not giving a chance is for taking a turn. My wife holds her into her arms, and we reached near the bunch. Before I could take them for weight, my daughter held my wife’s hair, gave a few scratches on her cheek.

You are the One (Parents) If, Who was the First Culprit to Your kids

I got 1 kg and gave one to her, she did not allow for a wash either. I shocked surprised completely that she was so crazy for it and buzzed almost the entire floor with her strong voice. Many of them were laughing at her and some got irritated. The market staff allowed our baby to eat inside the mall. Then we headed to the Electronic section. We had placed her again on the trolley, she was eating that Apple, falling down, and again she was crying and giving her back. Again and again. She as doing it and if I did not allow her eating, then she could cry louder and make people irritated.

However, it is difficult for maintain good habits for kids at an early age. I know that it is normal and babies do it often at that period of age. But what I had observed was something beyond my thinking and never experience anger. I pulled out my mobile phone and dialled my father. I just wanted to say to him that Reedha did something different today — it was not that bad or not a that good thing but sharing with him was quite fun for me or a bit of shame. On the call, I asked my father that “What if I was not capable of buying something she wants then?” My father gave me a very fine answer, and I was impressed.

Does Poor Child know Everything?

I never had a single thought of it. It was elementary, he said,“The poor child does not know that is Apple and if there was a baby who had never seen that before then she wouldn’t have asked or cried for it.” It was obvious, my daughter had seen the Apple many times, and she had to try it several times too. This was the reason that she recognized it quickly and shook the entire floor by her cry. This story was just Apple but what about the important decision in life or when you talk to your child about anything, then it is an earnest topic that we have to be alert while talking with our kids? It is a fault if something bad had happened with our child, it is because of our culture at home. If something goes wrong in front of them, they learn from our mistakes, and they do it knowingly in their life.